Butterflies and Helicopters
July 9, 2014
I’m doing as much as I know how to attract butterflies to my garden. For example, I’ve planted a butterfly bush and milkweed plants. I do this because these plants are supposed to attract butterflies and bees, and I know butterflies and bees are essential to producing vegetables.
One of the greatest miracles any person can observe is to watch a butterfly emerge from a cocoon. It was as wondrous to me last summer as the first time I saw it occur when I was a young child, when I first saw a butterfly emerge with damp, shriveled wings.
I was told then that we shouldn’t interfere, that we shouldn’t help the butterfly escape the cocoon and shouldn’t help spread the wings. We had to let the butterfly struggle. We were instructed that the struggle would give strength to the wings, and that would be essential to the butterfly’s survival.
Childhood is much like this, but too often helicopter parents intervene and interfere with the growth process and, ultimately, weaken their children’s ability to fend for themselves, to overcome adversity and to take flight.
Helicopter parents endanger our butterfly children.
Not Acting Like Grownups
December 26, 2015
Take a look at Fox Sports Detroit today, the second of two days replaying the 2015 MHSAA 11-Player Football Finals at Ford Field.
What I’d like you to see – what I’m most proud of – is the behavior of the players.
Score a touchdown? Then hand the ball to the official, without any childish end zone dancing.
Sack the quarterback? Then head back to the huddle, without any ridiculous pointing and prancing.
So different from the professional game.
But sadly, some of that bad behavior is settling to the college level; and sometimes, there’s even a hint of it in our high school games.
But for now, the players behaving most maturely are the youngest, and behaving least maturely are the oldest.